Have guts to say straight??

Many girls stay away from home these days living in a hostel. Its because some of them want to be either independent or their working conditions make them do so. There is a notion that many of the girls who live in hostel have boyfriends and come home at weird timings.
For the past few days I have been observing few girls in my hostel. For some of them, having a boy in their life is a prestige issue. For others its a mere timepass. For some others its a life related issue. Based on these criteria things change in the girls life.
Here we are considering the case of a girl(in my hostel) who is serious about the relationship with the guy. Now the life of a girl totally depends on the character of the guy if the girl is studious and calm. At times the couple may seem to be perfect like in mills&boons stories. The attitude of the guy is seen when he is either drunk or possessive about the girl or in some fight. If the guy is acting frenzy and driving the girl mad, its better to end the relation. I saw our girl shivering and crying loads in these situations. Why should she cope with such a boyfriend when she can be happy being single?

Isn't this some kind of abuse? He is always screaming and shouting at her. She's awake mostly during the night attending phone calls and trying to convince the fellow of correct reasons. There is no need for her to tolerate such a violent person. The main reason why physical/verbal abuse is so common in our country is because of our tolerant levels. We have the greatest ability to forgive man and still live with that beast. Why cant women act sensibly and have guts to say "GET LOST" outright?? What is it stopping us from doing so? If society is one of the reason, do hell with it. We formed it and its in our hands to challenge it.
Our roomies have decided to brain wash the girl to come out of such a relationship and live pleasantly. Going to motivate her to have guts and talk straight with her boyfriend. If you know any girls who are having such problems, help them and motivate them to be brave.

Physical abuse

With generations changing rapidly, the actual context abuse is also varying. We see many cases of such abuses in our society. Many people suffer silently especially women. At all stages of life, women are prone to such abuses either physically or sexually. If you are a kid or teenager, threat is there from the outside society if not family. If you are a home maker, the immediate threat is from her own husband and in-laws. If you are a old woman, living at the cost of her son, she would suffer from her daughter in law.
Why do such things happen in our society??In such male dominated society, they must be thinking its great to rule and dominate. How far is this justified? Just because they are 6 feet and 80kgs of weight, doesnt mean that they got right to treat others as slaves and trash them. Don't people have concern for others just like their loved ones. Why do we differentiate between same blood ones and others?? I faced some kind of similar situation when my cousin was staying at my house. My mother didnt like anything that girl did. I tried to explain my mother that she is part of our family. I will not say that my mother is bad. Its just that how my cousins family had treated her when she was young. She couldnt forget all the bad things done by them.
Even though we are good, some where our bruised hearts doesnt accept the bad ones. When we are hurt at a tender age, those impressions last for long. We have to live with them. The trust factor in us dies at that age.
Thats why people say that love is the most important factor in our lives. It has the healing factor... I am writing all of this because I saw one teenage girl being slapped by her fren left and right. I couldnt tolerate that sight. I hate men sometimes for their acts.
Physical abuse is much worse than bad words. You can forget those words, but the deeds give us a everlasting experience in our minds. You start developing hatred towards the community as such...
Love everyone. Share your bit of happiness with everyone. Bringing smile on the faces is important. Well... I am lost at this point of writing. Will write more later.