Have guts to say straight??

Many girls stay away from home these days living in a hostel. Its because some of them want to be either independent or their working conditions make them do so. There is a notion that many of the girls who live in hostel have boyfriends and come home at weird timings.
For the past few days I have been observing few girls in my hostel. For some of them, having a boy in their life is a prestige issue. For others its a mere timepass. For some others its a life related issue. Based on these criteria things change in the girls life.
Here we are considering the case of a girl(in my hostel) who is serious about the relationship with the guy. Now the life of a girl totally depends on the character of the guy if the girl is studious and calm. At times the couple may seem to be perfect like in mills&boons stories. The attitude of the guy is seen when he is either drunk or possessive about the girl or in some fight. If the guy is acting frenzy and driving the girl mad, its better to end the relation. I saw our girl shivering and crying loads in these situations. Why should she cope with such a boyfriend when she can be happy being single?

Isn't this some kind of abuse? He is always screaming and shouting at her. She's awake mostly during the night attending phone calls and trying to convince the fellow of correct reasons. There is no need for her to tolerate such a violent person. The main reason why physical/verbal abuse is so common in our country is because of our tolerant levels. We have the greatest ability to forgive man and still live with that beast. Why cant women act sensibly and have guts to say "GET LOST" outright?? What is it stopping us from doing so? If society is one of the reason, do hell with it. We formed it and its in our hands to challenge it.
Our roomies have decided to brain wash the girl to come out of such a relationship and live pleasantly. Going to motivate her to have guts and talk straight with her boyfriend. If you know any girls who are having such problems, help them and motivate them to be brave.

The right balance

Today, I mean sunday there is a open page in The Hindu newspaper. One can write views about any issue and get it published. I saw a beautiful article and cant wait to share it with everybody. Its the response to "STAY AT HOME MOM". A women has to manage many different things being a homemaker and mom to kids and working simultaneously.
The author quotes a poem by Elizabeth Ralph Mertz, "Accomplishments".

When Aristotle wrote his books,
When Milton searched for rhyme,
Did they have toddlers at the knee
Requesting dinner time?
When Dante contemplated hell,
Or Shakespeare penned a sonnet,
Did Junior interrupt to say
His cake had ketchup on it?
When Socrates was teaching youth
And Plato wrote the Phaedo,
Were they the ones to clean the mess
The children made with Play-doh?
If Edumund Burke had had to work
On all his kids' ablutions,
Would he have had the time and strength
To speak on Revolutions?
When Homer wrote his Illiad
Or Aesop told a fable,
Were they concerned about whose turn
it was to set the table?
When Newton fussed with calculus
Or labored in his lab
Did he compare the whiteness of
His laundry done with Fab?
Did food get bought when Darwin sought
The origin of the species;
Or did he have to hush the tots,
And tell them not to tease, please?
When Holmes and Brandels donned their robes
And gave their wise opinions,
Was laundry piled up four feet high?
With socks mixed up with linens?
How much greater, then, the task
Of those who manage both, Who juggle scholarship with child
Developement and growth.
And how much greater is the praise
For those who persevere
And finish their advanced degrees
and take up a career!

Hats off to those women who manage successfully!!!!